The phrase “Love wins” has been in the news lately and rightly so! It’s about time we’ve recognized all people who share a love have the right to be legally married regardless if it is a man and woman, man and man or woman and woman. I realize that there are people who may not agree with me, in fact there are a few in my family who are decidedly against same sex marriage.
On the day the Republic of Ireland passed the referendum to say yes to recognize same sex marriage, I got a phone call in the wee hours of the morning from one of my uncles announcing he wouldn’t be going ‘home’ anytime soon because of this. He called again after the Supreme Court ruling to tell me he was moving from the United States because of this ruling. I wished him well, adding that I was sorry to hear this. Personally, I believe when two people are committed to one another and love each other, this is a marriage, regardless of what others believe. I’m proud to be living in a country that has finally decided to say yes and let Love Win!
But back to my uncle and his dilemma, I’m quite positive he won’t be moving anytime soon. Nor will he forsake all of Ireland because of a political referendum – I happen to know he has a trip planned for late August, which he hasn’t cancelled. I am however, writing this blog because of these conversations. During both phone calls, he happened to start with… “Now Annie, you know I’m not a bigot.” which led me to argue that indeed he was. Of course, that started a new argument about me daring to dispute his thinking and my Catholic upbringing. I dared to point out the fact that our own family had two exceptionally well rounded, same sex couples who now had the “right” to live freely and with dignity as a couple in the states. That statement may have sent him a bit over the edge! I listened to him rant and rave about how we shouldn’t be bringing our own family troubles out in the open. This led me to literally laugh out loud. I’ve never considered either couple to be troublesome in anyway, however, I will admit our family does have its fair share of trouble. I then asked if he had read the statement by Justice Anthony Kennedy…
“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.”
This statement leaves little to argue about, as it elegantly brings to light the meaning behind the ruling. Marriage is a declaration of love, a basic right that until this ruling has not been available to all citizens. It is sad that it has taken this long and a Supreme Court ruling to allow Love to win.
My uncle fell silent while reading the statement, and I knew the fight was over. I’m sure I didn’t change his way of thinking, however, I’m hopeful that he will eventually realize that this is a good thing! Love wins… It does not matter who you love, but that you love. And, if you do indeed love someone truly, how can you fault another person for wanting the same. It is definitely time to let love win. The world has enough hatred for many things; the enduring love between two people should not be included in this mix. I applaud the people of Ireland and the Supreme Court Justices for helping to bring about an effective change in our world and how we see it.
Love wins… Love always wins, (Mitch Albom), this I do believe. You may not agree with my way of thinking, and that is your right. However, if you have love in your heart, I ask that you allow it to bloom and share this love. A person is not defined by their sexual preference and neither should their love be defined in this way. I was taught that the golden rule in life is to love one another. Exclusion is no longer an option when it comes to same sex marriage. It is definitely time for love to come out of the shadows and win.
I leave you now with some of my favorite love songs, some are old favorites and some are new. I hope you’ll have a listen and perhaps share one of your favorite love songs. Love wins… especially in a song!
I may have gotten a wee bit carried away with the love songs … there are so many, this list could go on for days! Thank you for reading and listening! If you’d like to share your thoughts, please leave a comment below… and remember love wins… love always wins <3
Until the next time.
It started with a song… and ended with a smile!